What if you have what you use, and it doesn’t work?
What if you trust your inner knowing, and the result isn’t what you hoped for?
It’s kind of like deciding to make spaghetti for dinner, trusting that you have all the ingredients… spaghetti noodles, red sauce, tomatoes… but when you get home, you realize that you don’t have what you need.
What do you do?
How many of you said, "Call Door Dash."
The dinner example is incredibly simple compared to the discomfort we feel when we no longer have our comforts around us, when we draw on our reserves of energy and even faith, and we come up short. What do you turn to when the well of good enough has run dry?
I ask myself this question a lot, especially because distractions and diversions are literally a phone tap away. The temptation to reach for something that is just a balm is always very present, and I have willingly participated in many kinds of numbing, sometimes with disasterous results. But as Brené Brown has famously said, you can’t selectively numb pain. When you numb pain, you also numb joy. And contentment. And peace. And relationships.
As we enter a new week of Lent, let’s see if we can pay attention to what we cling to. And a bigger question is, why? What will we get, where will we get to go if we cling to old patterns, old ways? That is not using what you have. It’s relying on old ways of coping with things that are hard. And that is okay. But it won’t help us evolve out of coping and into healing.
The moral of this story is, I promise you - PROMISE YOU - that you have something else in the fridge or the pantry that you can make. It may not be easy or fast, but it will get you to tomorrow.
Thinking of you this week.
Ask for help if you need it. Ask even if you don’t.
